It’s Not Personal…. How To Process Your Feelings When Staff Members You Love Move On

It’s Not Personal…. How To Process Your Feelings When Staff Members You Love Move On

When I 1st hired my friend, I knew what I was in for… I knew I would have someone working with me who was like me, professional, knowledgeable, kind, self-efficient, and the ideal assistant for me. When she informed me she would be leaving, I was so happy for her for what she wanted to do for her life. As an employer, I IMMEDIATELY went into CEO mode. Check, checking, re-checking, and make arrangements to move on.

Internally, situations like this can be stressful, daunting, and downright questionable…. but you can’t be like that. You can’t assume that people move on because they don’t like you or your business; it’s simply because they have to grow and flourish just as you have. You can’t fault them for that. In return, be careful of your emotions because they can interpret them negatively and think you are angry, upset, or done with them. This was not my case but rather not knowing how to process my own understanding.

(Yes, Bosses have moments as well)

It’s Not Personal

Usually, when people decide to resign, I say Ok and move on. From a business perspective, it’s your responsibility to take care of the needs of your empire. Because of my relationship with her, it was easy for me to accept her endeavors but difficult to process emotionally. It wasn’t even about the additional work I had to do… because my business plays a huge role in my day-to-day activities; honestly, it felt like a person was leaving my life. She has always been there, at my center being the best leader, helping during my food truck grand opening and of course supporting the She’s Ready Inc. brand designed for female entrepreneurs! She was there.

The day she left, I sent tulips…. my favorite for her. I thought about fun times. The Team had food and cards and all that good stuff you do when team members go…. but my heart broke a little….

All in all, the purpose of this blog today is to inform you that just because employees leave your business doesn’t mean that you’ve failed, that they don’t like you, or that this situation ends your friend/business relationship; it simply births a new opportunity for both of you. As entrepreneurs, it’s our job to enlighten, inspire, shape, and assist our team members. And just like a mentor, when they grow and develop, you support them with their choices.

To my dear friend Shanelle, I wish you so much happiness and joy. My tears won’t stop but I’ll be ok…. I mean have no choice, I have on ALL WHITE today.
😢😩😩🥲🥰🤦🏽‍♀️. I wish you nothing but the best in your future endeavors and I can’t wait to see what God truly has in store for you!


Love You ALWAYS!!



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